So, I know it. You guys really, really hate it when I talk about movies. You really don’t want for me to mess with your entertainment or your “guilty pleasures.” I totally get that. I know why you hate it, and I don’t blame you. Because sometimes it’s really a bummer to look at the realities of what it means to strive for holiness. It’s tough to really examine what we look at and what we put in our hearts and minds.
And, I also know that many who read this will claim that watching a movie does nothing to our hearts and minds. That it doesn’t affect us in any way. That we watch it and we walk away and we forget about it forever. But, if you are a Christian and you tell yourself these things, you are letting your heart lie to you.( The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it? Jeremiah 17:9) The truth is that everything we see is filed away in our minds, ready to replay at any time. You are sure to have some scene in your mind right now that you can recall with no trouble at all. We all do. We have many of them. And they do nothing to make us more Christ-like–in fact, they are a detriment to our spiritual growth.
So, I will preface this post by saying that I am writing this for Christians who are interested in growing in Christ, in dying to self and growing in wisdom and truth. If that’s not you, then this post doesn’t apply right now, although I pray it does sometime in the future.
I will also say that I don’t write this as someone who never watches what I shouldn’t. So, when you are tempted to feel that I am being holier-than-thou, on my spiritual high horse, and all of those other favorite you’re-a-hypocrite phrases, you will know that I’m admitting right up front that one reason I am so passionate about the idea of keeping our minds pure is because it is something that I, like you, struggle with.
The internet is already buzzing with the first photos of Christian Grey as he will appear in the upcoming movie 50 Shades of Grey, which is set to come out on Valentine’s Day. I know that soon many of my sisters in Christ will be posting photos and talking excitedly about going with their friends to see the movie.
But, what if we didn’t? What if we determined that we aren’t going to allow anyone into our relationship with our husbands? Not a fictional character in a book, not an actor on the screen? What if we decided that we will no longer allow our minds to invite a third person into our bedroom? What if we chose to close our hearts and minds to fantasies about other men (who don’t comfort us when we cry, who don’t faithfully support us, who don’t play with our children, who don’t offer advice, who didn’t pledge to love us until we die)? What if we gave this gift to our husbands: being fully present in the moment, completely focused on him and all that we love about him during intimate moments?
What if we decided our husbands and our love for them mattered more than a girl’s night out and 50 Shades of Grey?
And, even more, what if we admitted that watching this movie would be a detriment to our growth as Christians? What if we finally quit worrying about being seen as prudes or as out of touch, and we showed the lost world, in just one small way, that Christianity really does make us different? And, it’s not such a bad thing?
Now is the time to decide that we will not watch this movie. Determine this now, in your heart, and pray that God will give you the courage to tell your Christian friends that you can’t watch the movie, for the sake of your husband and your desire to live in holiness.
We can do this, sisters. Let everyone think what they will about it. We can choose to do what pleases God. Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things. Philippians 4:8