I have been a part of my husband’s family for twenty years. I remember one night years ago before we all had kids, when Chad’s siblings and his parents and I were sitting around telling stories. Somehow a hilarious tale came up about some high school rebellion or other that had never been found out. As the story grew and she began to hear things she didn’t like, my sweet mother-in-law put her hands over her face and said with a laugh, “I don’t want to know about it!” She is a brilliant woman with multiple degrees, but when it came to this story, she enjoyed her blissful ignorance. She didn’t want to hear any more. She was happy to bury her head in the sand and go on believing that her boys were just as responsible and principled in high school as they are now.
It really doesn’t matter if Chad’s mom ever listens to that story or gets wise about some of the dumb stuff her kids did in high school. She isn’t raising them anymore. They turned out pretty great, and she can freely avoid the realities of those silly things that are now long past.
But those of us who are still in the trenches don’t get out so easy. We don’t get a bury-your-head-in-the-sand pass. We need to look up, look around, listen, and understand what is happening in the world around us.
A video is making its way around the internet that is part of a series called “Kids Meet…” This particular episode is titled “Kids Meet Someone Who’s Had an Abortion.” In the video, Amelia Bonow, the founder of #ShoutYourAbortion, sits down with kids to talk to them about how normal abortion is. She says it’s like “a crappy dentist appointment” where the doctor uses a straw to suck “the pregnancy” out. She also tells them that she feels that life begins at birth. For those who are pro-life, the video is disturbing. It revolves entirely around her feelings and sends the message to the kids who are speaking with her (and those who are watching on YouTube for Kids) that you are a mean person if you question someone’s feelings about a matter, even something as controversial and important as abortion. She teaches the kids that the term pro-life is a misnomer and when one little boy says that he doesn’t believe that abortion should be a solution to what he calls “recklessness,” she tells him that even though her partner didn’t use a condom that she doesn’t qualify that as reckless, just a mistake.
As parents, it’s hard to face the reality that these are the kinds of “truths” that filmmakers and book writers, YouTubers and celebrities, teachers and politicians are diligently trying to teach our children. But the Bible is just another book on a shelf for most of the world. We MUST realize that the worldview that most influencers are promoting is directly opposed to what the Bible teaches. There was a time when what the culture was promoting pretty well lined up with the Bible. Parents in those days had the luxury of trusting the world at large to help them raise their children. We will not be able to coast through parenting that way. We will have to actively and consistently teach our kids how to process this world through a biblical lens, and the only way we can do that is if we look at and listen to exactly what our kids are being taught.
Over and over again as I shared this video with friends, they responded by saying they couldn’t watch the whole thing because they were too disgusted and disturbed. But, I would urge all of us: don’t look away. Watch and listen and show your kids and talk about it with them. Know what they are seeing on YouTube and Netflix. Know which websites they are frequenting. Follow Teen Vogue and see all of the ways that they are encouraging your kids to sin. Listen to the rhetoric that comes out of Hollywood and Washington. We can’t combat the wrong thinking that is being poured into our kids’ brains if we refuse to listen to it.
A few days ago, Amelia Bonow tweeted: “The ‘Kids Meet Someone Who Had An Abortion’ video now has over a million views. Huge thanks to the anti-choice mob for sharing widely & exposing tens of thousands of conservative women who’ve had abortions to the fresh, seductive idea that they don’t have to hate themselves.”
I like to think that the video has been shared so often because we, as parents, are waking up to the notion that our kids are being actively targeted and indoctrinated into a feelings-based worldview that completely discounts and directly opposes God’s way. But, it’s not enough to look and listen. Then we have to talk to our kids, often and with depth, and most importantly of all, we have to live out our faith in a way that shows them that God is real and that Jesus is so much better than anything the world has to offer. Remember, the way is narrow and few find it. The majority of the voices out there are more in line with #ShoutYourAbortion than God’s word. Let’s raise our kids according to His word, eyes open, hearts tuned to His goodness, ears listening for the whispers of those who want to lead our children down the wide, easy path. Raising disciples in 2019 won’t be easy, but what an opportunity to bring glory to the Lord.
Thank you for opening our eyes to this, and for sharing such a helpful, hopeful message to shepherd our littles.
Your blog is such an encouragement.
Thanks so much, Hannah!
This video and a local library hosting “Tea time with a Drag Queen” for teens are disturbing. Even non-Christian social workers agree that this is indoctrination. A pushing of unhealthy, emotionally-destructive activities on children and teens speaks to the depravity of our culture. Christians have voices, and instead of not fighting because “it’s not the hill we want to die on”-we should be fighting on each of these hills. May God help us be strong, courageous, and wise as we navigate leading our children through this muck.
The video should really be called… Kids that never got to meet anyone because they were aborted.
I find it dis-ingeniousness that the comment section was disable on the video, Gee I wonder why?
I’m not a parent which may have made a difference in viewing this video. I found it disturbing, but more for the view of God which is presented. The presenter has the presumption to assume that she knows what God’s plan is, which, in her view, involves her having an abortion. We as Christians know that God never plans for someone to commit sin. But, having said that, what makes her qualified to be God’s spokesperson, saying what His plans and purposes are? A little humility would have been nice. But then, if you’re shouting about your abortion, I guess humility isn’t likely to play a major role in your life.
Even if one doesn’t view it abortion as a sin, what, exactly, makes it something to be proud of? It seems to be the outcome of a series of bad decisions – having sex outside of marriage, using no protection, and so forth. I don’t think I would wish to brag about my poor judgment and decision-making if I were in such a situation.
Shirley A Raney
Thank you for showing all what is happening in our institutions of learning. Parents take time to know and to teach them
God’s way. They are our most important gift from God and ours and His gift to the world. Thank you again
God tells us, “The true will set you free!” He never says that the truth will be pleasant or fun to hear, because most times it isn’t. That does not mean we should not hear it. If truth was always good to hear we wouldn’t mind hearing that we have cancer. Even when it hurts we need the hard truth to be free.
Thank you so much for sharing this. Hard as it was to watch, it is encouraging to hear your wisdom and warnings to other young moms. Thank you for exposing the darkness for what it is. Praying for God to protect and heal all the children (and adults) who might have seen that and been swayed toward evil by it.
Killing your offspring in the womb or after birth goes against all natural drives for survival of the species. Nothing justifies that killing. When rats are in conditions of over crowding, they start killing each other and their offspring. It seems that humans are like rats.