Tonight I went on a date with Sawyer. That sounds so cheesy to even say it, as if you can date a five year old. I mean, he can’t even eat four whole chicken nuggets. He can’t go potty alone. He can’t carry on an intelligent conversation about the stock market. Okay, so neither can I, but you get the point. Dating a preschooler is basically babysitting in a public place.
But, dating a five year old who just also happens to be the cutest, sweetest, most fascinating, most special boy in the room feels very much like being in love. I was absolutely smitten with my boy tonight.
Our local Chick Fil-A provided this event, a Mother/Son night that has been greatly anticipated in the Edgington house for several weeks. There were knights, peasants, Lords, and Ladies. There was balloon sword-making and lots of picture snapping.
I asked him some of the questions that were on the menu:
Would you rather be a spider or an elephant? I asked. His eyes rolled to the ceiling as he gave it serious thought. What eats spiders? he asked.
Lots of things, I said.
What eats elephants?he wanted to know.
Umm, not much, I guessed.
Then I want to be an elephant.
That’s what I call solid reasoning.
And later when we took a ride in what I’m sure was a funeral home limo, we were packed in there with six other people, plus the driver, all total strangers to us. The mothers and sons rode in what was probably an exhaustion-induced silence. But, Sawyer talked excitedly all the way through the ride, touching on everything from numbers to animals to letters, and singing most of it. In a situation where I would normally be shushing him, I let Sawyer talk and sing to his heart’s content, as loudly as he wanted, because I was so enamored with his enthusiasm for living in that exact moment in time. He wasn’t worrying about what he was going to do when he got home. He wasn’t even thinking about what was going to happen in five minutes when the ride was over. All he was doing was completely enjoying himself. And, it made me so glad that I was talking and laughing with my sweet son, not even caring if we were annoying the other people in the car.
He was basically just a limo-load of fun.
Sure, he can’t cut his own food. But, he still has a lot to teach me about enjoying each moment as it comes.
It isn’t easy, though, is it? When the workload is never-ending. And the guilt is overwhelming. And the fear is crippling. And the sleep never comes. We get bogged down in the drudgery of day-to-day trials and tasks, but God wants us to have a more abundant life! I feel convinced that I saw abundant life tonight in a little bow-tied chatterbox. I want to follow his lead.
Emma Duncan
I felt like God was saying the exact same thing to me just now! That life is good and abundant, your post really encouraged me x
Melissa
Thank you, Emma!
monica mccaleb
I loved reading your blog! You’re a great writer hun! I’m so glad you were able to bond with your son , THAT is why I plan these ’emotional connection’ events! Awesome blog!!! Hugs!
Melissa
Thank you, Monica!! We had so much fun! I appreciate all the hard work you put into it! ๐
Hollie
Hey there! I saw a link to this post on facebook. Nice to meet a local blogger! I was the Lady in the black and gold Renaissance gown at the Mother Son Date Knight. I remember seeing your little one and being so taken by his adorable attire! Glad you all had a good time. Feel free to check out my blog at http://moderncolorsblog.blogspot.com/.
Melissa
Hi, Hollie! Thanks for your comment! I’ll definitely check out your blog! It was a fun night. My little boy really liked your outfit! ๐
sharinghispeace
Like Hollie, it’s nice to “see” a local fellow blogger! I was at the date night as well and although my son is allllmmmooost 2, we had a blast. He enjoyed trying to use his sword against the knights (hitting them in the back of the head) and gave the Cow a dirty look everytime it came by…
God bless!!
Melissa
Wow, this is great! I’ll check your blog out, too! Thanks so much for the comment. Ha, it sounds like your son enjoyed himself. ๐
monica mccaleb
Connecting people.. its what I do! Lol!!! Love ya gals! Xoxoxox
Melissa
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Heather
thank you for that great blog and reminder….I needed that.
Melissa
Me, too, Heather! Kids are the greatest!