One of the most common things that we hear in ministry counseling is that someone is struggling with a pornography addiction. Men and women alike constantly battle this temptation, and in moments of weakness they regularly fail in their commitment to stay away from porn. They don’t understand why they can’t just stop looking at it, stop being tempted by it. Like a serial dieter who keeps a smorgasbord of cupcakes, cookies, and candy in the pantry, they leave their computers and phones and tablets unrestricted and count on their own strength of will to keep themselves away from the very sin that is killing them.
That’s not how avoiding temptation works.
If you are struggling with a porn addiction and you really, truly want to stop looking at porn, then you need to get filters and accountability software on every single device in your home. Alcoholics have to pour out the liquor, dieters have to throw away the cupcakes, and porn addicts have to block the porn. This is how you flee temptation.
If you want your husband, wife, pastor, or friends to believe that you are sincerely and desperately sick of your porn addiction, this step will show them that you are serious. Your willpower isn’t going to rescue you from this destructive sin habit. Pray that Jesus will keep you from temptation, but use the tools that He has inspired and flee temptation like He commanded.
Your life will be better without porn. Your relationships can be healed. Your mind can be redeemed. If you really want to be free of the guilt and the heartache of porn addiction, take this first step. Block the pornography.
By the way, the best time to get internet filters and accountability is before an addiction develops. We have been fleeing this temptation since 2004, and no one in our house has a porn problem. Every Christian with internet should take the availability of pornography seriously. Don’t count on your own willpower or the willpower that you imagine your children have. Sexual sin is spiritually devastating, and no one–not one single soul–is immune.
Watch and pray that you may not enter into temptation. The spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak. Matthew 26:41